When Words Lose Their Weight: Reflections on Changing Language and Values

madar chod, maki chut, randi ki aulad, teri maa ka bhosda.. no, this is not some fighting scene, this is two college students playing, and more amazingly, one of them is the girl from whom these beautiful words are coming out.

It is not the first time that I have experienced this thing while working at a famous private university near

Chandigarh; however, this time the repetition of these words was so prominent, loud and clear that it forced me to

think and, more so, write on it.

Occurrence, or I should say the utterance of these words from the mouths of female students, means that these

words should be taken out of the list of abusive words and should be considered as normal speaking words. Well,

if this is the case, then there is no point in writing on this topic further.

I am no one or nothing to be discussing or, least of all, complaining of what is happening, but just wondering if

being able to use these words confidently anywhere and anytime is the new sign of showing that you are bold,

strong, and give a damn about anything or anyone in this world.

Before I delve deeper into my not at all liked by anyone lecture on this topic, I would like to describe where and

how I heard all this.

The time must be around 6:15 PM, and being the end of October, it was already dark all around by the time we

left from office. My colleague and I were strolling lazily towards the parking lot, and right before the parking

there is a small round park where students relax, study and gossip.

There is almost complete darkness in the park as the dim lights along the pathway are just not bright enough. As

that was coming, two students, a boy and a girl, were kind of playing. What seemed like the boy must have

thrown his slipper towards the girl, or might have thrown her slipper away.

There was loud laughing between the two of them, everything was normal, just when the girl student started

uttering these beautiful words. And it was not just one time that the series was uttered, but there was constant

repetition at least four to five times. The utterance was loud enough from her to be heard from nearly fifty yards

away from where we were standing.

So is this the new bold, daring, and give a fuck to nothing Generation Z? And yes, will these be the Gen Z

mothers of future?

To be able to use abusive words anywhere without a per cent inhibition is the definition of that you do not care

about anyone, that you are not scared of anyone, that you are modern or next generation, and that you have the

might to change this world.

I wonder what has happened to the fair gender. Is this some kind of revolt or retaliation for the years of suppression

this gender has faced in the decades gone by?

I am no one to judge if it is right or wrong but it is difficult to swallow for a gen x person like me and same was

the case with my colleague who was around 15 years younger than me.

It is difficult for me to swallow such a happening and/or consider it as normal because from a small age I was

being told not to use such words, they are bad. I still feel hesitant to use such words. So does this mean that Gen X

was not as cool as Gen Z is?

My colleague and I were so shocked, and in fact, my younger colleague asked me to say something about it, and

for that moment, I said that I was not able to find words to describe how strange or awkward I was feeling right

then.

This is happening at a university which claims to be among the top ranked private university in India. So, this is

the kind of students who it is admitted and what sort of graduates are coming out?

I don't know how many of you will agree with me, but it has been observed that girls/ females of the coming

generation are turning out to be bolder than before. boys/males are coming out to be more considerate or sensitive

that before. To say it straightforwardly, the fair sex is now more cruel, merciless and insensitive than before, while

the males have moved back.

Even in the episode that triggered me to write this blog, the male friend did not utter a single bad word, while the

female stopped for nothing in uttering those words. In a way, it shows that females are becoming more shameless.

I am trying to justify myself that what I heard was not wrong, but unfortunately, it contradicts what I had been

taught. This is why I am not able to come to terms with it.

As I was thinking about it, I remembered a news item that has been talked about in the town lately. The Sonam

Raghuvanshi case, the woman who murdered her husband on honeymoon, occurred within one week of their

marriage. The reason - she wanted to be with her boyfriend.

Well, this is the height of boldness or having the attitude to give a damn about anything in this world. We accept

your boldness and daring attitude; we bow to it, well, I certainly do, but you just snatched away someone's son in

your heist to prove your boldness.

Will these be the Gen Z women? Generation Zombie Women!

The Sonam Raghuvanshi case is not a standalone one. In the past few months, I have come across multiple such

cases where, woman is involved in murder just to be with someone else.

Recently, a girl murdered her live-in partner just to try out her forensic knowledge, as she had been a forensic

student.

I mean, at first, such news looks like they are made up by the media people to garner more circulation.

I mean, what on earth is going on? God's created life givers are turning into real-life zombies, cold blooded

zombies.

What is most annoying is that the motive of murder is as stupid as the cold-blooded murder that is committed. It is

not for some money or some big property; in most cases, it is for the desire to be with some other man.

Males made murder news for snatching someone's property or for looting a bank or a rich person's house or

robbing some, not for being with some other female.

My judgment must be short, or I am not able to see the actual picture, but I am not completely wrong as far as I

can see from here.

 Working in the marketing department of such a university where such beautiful, intelligent and morally equipped

students are studying gives a strange feeling.

What kind of effort is being made to attract more admissions? Well, that is another highly sensitive topic to be

debated.

I started my bike, and as I was leaving, I shared a thought with my colleague.

Imagine this girl becoming a mother someday, and the first word uttered by her baby will not be Maa, but

Madarchod!